Amazing V on V Sex Positions

Happy Lesbian Visibility Awareness week!

Girl on girl sex scenes in movies, porn and TV shows can do a pretty poor job of depicting how lesbians realistically have sex. Many, in fact, are created for the titillation and gratification of the male gaze, or have been directed by somebody with zero experience of real v on v sex. 

Although there is of course no right or wrong way to have sex (you should just do what feels great for you and your bodies!) here are some great lesbian sex positions - enjoy!

V on V Sex Position: Scissoring

A classic. Scissoring is probably the most well known because of how often it shows up in porn. One of the easiest ways to try scissoring is for two people to sit facing each other with their legs spread apart, then shimmying closer together until their bodies and vulvas meet. From there, you can hold onto one another and grind, pulse, gyrate, and wiggle your bodies against each other in whatever way feels great for you.

Ways to mix this up:

• You don’t have to do V on V if that doesn’t work for you - rubbing your V/clit against a thigh can also be amazing
• Place a soft bullet vibrator in between your bodies and grind against it
• Try sitting up (holding each others back) or let one of you lie back 

V on V Sex Position: Yab Yum

In this Tantric position one partner sits down (cross-legged, on a chair, or with their legs out in front of them) - they are the ‘base’- while the other sits on their lap with their ankles wrapped behind their partner's back (they are in the ‘held’ position). This isn’t always about genital stimulation and/or penetration - it can simply be a beautiful position to build connection and intimacy. With time, as arousal builds, it can lead to dry humping/ movement/genitial stimulation/penetration with fingers/a toy if you’re both open to seeing what builds!

Ways to mix this up:

• Look into each others eyes for a connective eye gaze
• Let the ‘held’ partner rest their head on their partners shoulder to feel that close chest to chest intimacy
• Move, breathe, grind, make noises, and use your hands to explore each other’s bodies 
• Insert a vibrator in between you to move against
• Let the ‘base’ use their fingers or a strap on so the held can experience penetration in this position
• You can swap positions to see what it’s like being the ‘base’ / ‘held’. 
• Use pillows to support you / make you comfortable
• Try it clothed, in underwear or naked depending on your headspace. 

V on V Sex Position: 69

The oral sex position of dreams. Let one partner lie back and the other partner climb on top facing the opposite way so you can both give and receive oral sex at the same time. 

Ways to mix this up:

• Add fingers/ penetration 
• lie on your sides or use a pillow to support your head
• The person on top can sit up and turn this into a face sitting / queening position!

Lesbian Sex Position: Off-the-Bed Kneel

The bed kneel is when one partner has their legs open all the way at the edge of the bed, while the other partner kneels and uses their tongue and mouth to perform oral. As simple as that! 

V on V Sex Position: Face Sitting

Face sitting or queening, whatever you want to call it, is a position where the person on top can ride their partner's face and feel all sorts of control. Even for people who don't usually love oral sex, face sitting can give you a completely different experience. It might be just what you're looking for to spice up your sex life!

Because breathing is a big consideration in this position it's best to establish nonverbal cues or safe words to communicate and ensure everyone is having an enjoyable time!

V on V Sex Position: Fisting

Although this may sound scary, it’s a popular VonV position because it's so intimate, intense and connective for both partners. Plus, people with vulvas tend to have smaller hands meaning it’s more achievable than it can be for heterosexual couples!  Put plainly, fisting is when someone's entire hand inserts inside their partner's vaginal canal for penetration. 

Remember to use lots of lube, ensure the person on the receiving end is relaxed, have open communication, take your time, and work your way up to fisting with your fingers. Communicate what feels good, and of course, stop if anything begins to feel painful. 

V on V Sex Position: Doggy Style

The doggy sex position requires one partner to be on all fours and the other partner to be behind their legs, penetrating them from the back either vaginally or anally. You can use a strap-on dildo, your hands, or any hand-held sex toy.

Never ever go from penetrating the anus to the vagina for hygiene purposes. The vagina has a very delicate Ph balance and microbiome, and there are certain bacteria that can be found in the anus that you do not want in the vagina. This bacteria can increase your risk of certain infections, including bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, and UTIs.

For this reason, stick with one hole for one sex session, or wash your sex toys, fingers, hands, etc. before moving to another one.

V on V Sex Position: Reverse Cowgirl

In the reverse cowgirl sex position, one partner lies flat on the bed, while the other person sits on top facing their partner's feet. The penetrating partner can use either fingers or a strap-on, depending on the preference.

The reverse cowgirl sex position can be really enjoyable for people who find direct G-spot penetration a little too much and want something a bit gentler, while still putting the person on top in control of speed, angle and movement. 

To easily get into the reverse cowgirl position, squat upright on the balls of your feet and bounce up and down, or get on your knees and lean forward slightly, while holding onto your partner's legs for extra leverage and support as you grind against them.

Enjoy!

Alice x

SheSpot Sexologist